Helping Woman After Miscarriage Los Angeles CA

Are you at a loss when it comes to knowing what to say or do to help a woman who has miscarried? Often, we don't know what to say or do and opt for either saying, or doing, nothing. To make matters worse, we make the mistake of dismissing her grief. I'm here to help you by offering a few simple support tips if you find yourself with a friend or loved one who has miscarried.

1. Don't say:
   • You're young, you can always have another.
   • It was meant to be, or It was God's will.
   • At least you have other children.
   • Miscarriages are common.
   • Why don't you just get over it and move on? (That was said to me.)
   • At least you weren't that far along.
   • There must have been something wrong with the baby.
   • You can always try again.

   These words, although often said with the best of intentions, do nothing to help a woman who has miscarried. Actually, they do the opposite- they hurt. Why? Well, when you say things like You can always have another, or, It was meant to be, you are essentially saying her loss wasn't real. You're not taking into consideration that she lost a REAL BABY -- a baby she had love, hopes, dreams, wishes and plans for. When she lost her baby, she lost all of those dreams, too. If she were to lose a child after birth, I'm quite certain people would treat her differently because a baby was seen, held, loved. Remember: A pregnant woman usually forms a very strong bond with her unborn from the moment she realizes she's pregnant. Her life changes immediately as she begins planning a brand new life. After all, there was a very alive, beautiful and real baby inside of her. A baby who died.

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Author: Ellen DuBois